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Last updated on July 6, 2024

If you’ve been looking to start couples journaling, these prompts will help you create a safe space for open communication to strengthen your relationship.

Loving partnership

Couples journaling: Best prompts to get you started

Having grown up in a world where movies tell us that love conquers all, the truth is that, as much as we’d like to believe it, this is simply not true. Relationships require work and nourishment. Daily responsibilities, work, and the distractions of technology can all chip away at the intimacy and connection that initially brought two people together. To counteract these challenges, couples journaling offers a powerful tool to strengthen the bond between partners.

Is couples journaling right for you?

Couples journaling involves sharing feelings, thoughts, fears, memories, and aspirations. It’s a safe space for open communication, nurturing vulnerability, active listening, and empathy, therefore deepening emotional bonds and enhancing relationships.

Even if you already communicate well, couples journaling offers distinct advantages. It provides a structured way to organize thoughts and reflect on personal and relationship dynamics. Writing down goals and aspirations can have a powerful effect, solidifying intentions, helping you stay focused, and offering a tangible record of progress over time.

Getting started

Getting started with couples journaling is simple. Set aside regular time slots to write together, whether it’s in the morning over coffee or before bed, consistency is key. Choose a journal that resonates with both of you, be it a blank notebook or a guided journal with prompts. Try to write by hand, as it enhances the emotional connection. Couples journaling shouldn’t be rushed, and it shouldn’t feel like a chore. Take your time, and let the process of writing bring you closer together.

How to use the prompts

Together, choose a number from 1 to 60, a number from 61 to 120, and a number from 121 to 180. This will ensure a balanced experience. Read the prompts matching the numbers and answer the questions as thoughtfully as possible, going in depth into specific times, situations, how and what you felt. Take turns to share your responses. You may come up with more questions along the way. Write them down and add them to the list!

180 journal prompts for couples

 

How well do you know your partner?

Even though these questions may seem obvious, it’s surprising how often life can drift us apart from our partner. As we grow and change, it’s crucial to check in regularly to stay connected and nurture our bond.

  1. What worries does your partner currently have?
  2. What are your partner’s life dreams?
  3. Who are your partner’s best friends?
  4. What is your partner’s life motto?
  5. What are your partner’s most special times in his life?
  6. Do you know your partner’s religious beliefs?
  7. What is your partner’s favorite way to spend an evening?
  8. What kind of present would your partner like best?
  9. Can you describe what your partner did the past couple of days?
  10. What does your partner like to do with time off?
  11. What was your partner’s most embarrassing experience?
  12. Where was your partner born?
  13. What would your partner do if he or she won the lottery?
  14. What is your partner’s favorite place to eat?
  15. When is your partner’s birthday?
  16. What is your partner allergic to?
  17. What is your partner’s favorite song?
  18. Does your partner have any medical concerns?
  19. What makes your partner sad?
  20. What is your partner’s favorite thing to do on a sunny day?
  21. Who was your partner’s best friend in childhood?
  22. What is your partner’s favorite sports team?
  23. What is your partner’s favorite movie?
  24. Do you know your partner’s favorite hobby?
  25. What is your partner’s favorite food?
  26. What is your partner’s least favorite food?
  27. Do you know what your partner’s dream vacation looks like?
  28. What is your partner’s biggest fear?
  29. What is your partner’s favorite season?
  30. Do you know your partner’s favorite book?
Journal prompts for couples
  1. Do you know your partner’s favorite animal?
  2. Do you know your partner’s middle name?
  3. Who is your partner’s favorite singer or band?
  4. What is your partner’s favorite TV show?
  5. What is your partner’s favorite sport to watch?
  6. Do you know your partner’s favorite sport to play?
  7. What is your partner’s dream job?
  8. What is your partner’s favorite childhood memory?
  9. How does your partner feel about pineapple on pizza?
  10. What is your partner’s favorite holiday?
  11. What is your partner’s favorite way to relax?
  12. Do you know your partner’s favorite ice cream flavor?
  13. What turns on your partner sexually?
  14. What is your partner’s favorite cuisine?
  15. Do you know your partner’s favorite dessert?
  16. What is your partner’s favorite drink (alcoholic or non-alcoholic)?
  17. What is your partner’s favorite time of day?
  18. Do you know your partner’s favorite board game?
  19. What is your partner’s biggest pet peeve?
  20. What is your partner’s favorite thing to do on a rainy day?
  21. Do you know your partner’s favorite quote or saying?
  22. What is your partner’s favorite outdoor activity?
  23. What is your partner’s favorite indoor activity?
  24. Do you know your partner’s favorite place to shop?
  25. What is your partner’s favorite childhood cartoon?
  26. What is your partner’s favorite childhood toy?
  27. Does your partner know the date of your anniversary?
  28. What is your partner’s favorite city?
  29. What is your partner’s favorite time to make love?
  30. Do you know your partner’s favorite way to spend a weekend?

Exploring your relationship

These questions help you reflect on your shared experiences, appreciate each other’s strengths, and navigate challenges as a team. By exploring these aspects, you can deepen your connection and continue to grow together.

  1. What was your partner wearing when you first met?
  2. What is your favorite memory together?
  3. How did you two meet? What was your first impression?
  4. What moments stand out as happy times in your relationship? Why?
  5. What moments stand out as difficult times in your relationship? What lessons did you learn?
  6. How has your relationship changed since you first met? Is there something you miss?
  7. What qualities do you appreciate most in each other?
  8. What is something new you’ve learned about each other recently?
  9. How do you handle disagreements or conflicts?
  10. What is a strength you bring to the relationship?
  11. What is your love language? Are there any differences? Are you meeting each other’s needs?
  12. How do you support each other in difficult times?
  13. What is your favorite thing about your relationship?
  14. What is a challenge you’ve overcome together? How did you overcome it?
  15. How do you maintain intimacy in your relationship?
  16. How do you celebrate each other’s successes?
  17. What is one thing you would like to improve in your relationship? How do you plan to improve it?
  18. What are your favorite ways to spend quality time together?
  19. How was it when you first started dating? What are some highs and lows of that period?
  20. What is a dream or aspiration you share?
  1. How do you keep the romance alive in your relationship?
  2. What role does trust play in your relationship?
  3. How do you manage stress as a couple?
  4. What is your favorite date night activity?
  5. How do you balance individual and shared activities?
  6. What is a tradition you’ve created together?
  7. How do you support each other’s personal growth?
  8. What is something you admire about your partner’s approach to life?
  9. How do you handle financial decisions as a couple?
  10. What is the most meaningful gift you’ve given each other?
  11. Do you remember a time when you laughed uncontrollably?
  12. How do you navigate changes or transitions in your relationship?
  13. What is a shared value that strengthens your relationship?
  14. How do you show forgiveness and understanding?
  15. What is a lesson you’ve learned from each other?
  16. What are the current sources of stress in your relationship? How are you addressing them?
  17. How do you make everyday moments special?
  18. What is your favorite way to relax together?
  19. What is a goal you’ve achieved together?
  20. How do you create a supportive environment for each other?
Loving partnership
  1. What is your favorite way to celebrate milestones together?
  2. How do you handle external pressures or influences on your relationship?
  3. What is a hobby or interest you’ve developed together? Has it helped strengthen your bond?
  4. What goals do you have as a couple? How do you plan to achieve them?
  5. How do you set and respect boundaries in your relationship?
  6. How do you celebrate your anniversaries?
  7. Do you feel accepted by your partner?
  8. How do you envision your future together?
  9. Do you appreciate your partner’s point of view and perspectives?
  10. Why do you think some relationships fail?
  11. Does your partner make you feel like you could conquer anything?
  12. Does your partner encourage you to step out of your comfort zone?
  13. Are you proud of your partner? Why?
  14. Has your partner helped you grow as a person? How?
  15. Do you feel understood by your partner?
  16. Do you feel secure with your partner?
  17. What does your dream vacation together look like?
  18. Does your partner make you feel deeply loved?
  19. Does your partner surprise you with acts of kindness?
  20. Are you parents’ relationships similar or different from your own?

Exploring your inner world

These questions encourage introspection and self-discovery, helping you articulate your values, fears, and dreams to gain a clearer understanding of yourself and your path in life, which in turn will form the foundation for strong and fulfilling relationships. 

  1. What’s your life’s purpose? How do you plan to achieve it?
  2. What are your core values and beliefs?
  3. How does your ideal day look like?
  4. What do you consider your greatest accomplishment so far?
  5. What is your biggest fear?
  6. How important is family in your life?
  7. What is your view on parenthood? Would you diverge from your parents’ approach?
  8. What important event is coming up in your life? How does it make you feel?
  9. How do you cope with stress?
  10. What is your favorite childhood memory?
  11. What do you value most in your friendships?
  12. How do you prefer to spend your time alone?
  13. What motivates you the most?
  14. What is your biggest regret?
  15. How do you express your creativity?
  16. What do you believe happens after death?
  17. Are you happy with your home? Is there anything you want to change or improve?
  18. Describe your top three priorities in life right now.
  19. What do you consider your greatest strength?
  20. What do you consider your greatest weakness?
  1. How do you handle failure or setbacks?
  2. What do you value most in a romantic relationship?
  3. How do you define success?
  4. What are your most significant life experiences?
  5. Who or what inspires you the most?
  6. How do you approach personal growth and self-improvement?
  7. What are your thoughts on aging and mortality?
  8. What do you appreciate most about your life right now?
  9. What is your dream job or career path?
  10. How do you define happiness?
  11. What are your thoughts on love and relationships?
  12. How do you balance work and personal life?
  13. How do you manage your finances?
  14. How do you handle criticism or feedback?
  15. Describe your ideal home environment. Is there anything you’d like to change?
  16. How do you contribute to your community?
  17. What is your attitude toward lifelong learning?
  18. How do you interact with technology and social media?
  19. What do you value most about your ethnic background?
  20. Are there any demons in yourself you have to fight? Or had to fight in the past?
Relationship prompts
  1. What is your favorite form of entertainment?
  2. What is your perspective on change and adaptability?
  3. How do you prioritize your physical and emotional health wellbeing?
  4. What do you struggle with most in life?
  5. What dreams have you failed to develop?
  6. How do you deal with loneliness?
  7. What would you like to change about yourself? Why?
  8. What significant goals have you yet to realize?
  9. Are you able to easily express your feelings?
  10. What difficult events or periods have you gone through? What lessons did you learn?
  11. What personal improvements do you want to make in your life?
  12. Have you experienced trauma? How did you heal yourself? Are there any lasting effects?
  13. What do you want your life to be like in five years? And in ten?
  14. What achievement in your life are you particularly proud of? Why?
  15. Did your parents express love and affection? How? How has this shaped your life?
  16. What is your role in your relationship? Are you happy in that role?
  17. What was your parents relationship towards each other and you during childhood? How has this shaped your life?
  18. How did your family express anger when you were a child?
  19. Did your parents show interest in you as a child? How has this shaped your life?
  20. Are you able to see other people’s perspectives and points of view?

To wrap up, couples journaling can benefit relationships, simultaneously stimulating individual growth. The key to mastering the practice of journaling is to keep an open mind and heart. Embrace the journey of couples journaling to nurture both your relationship and yourselves.

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